Thursday, 4 June 2015

Being Single

Being single can often be underrated. It's easy to fall into that trap of feeling that a relationship will fix all of your heart's problems. But then something happens to make you realise just how awful being in a relationship can be sometimes, and you're happy just to be single for a little while, even if that little while doesn't last very long. So today, as I'm feeling the true, undiluted pleasure of not being romantically involved with anyone I thought I'd share with you my reasons why.

Number One on the list is FREEDOM.
I'm not trying to imply that being in a relationship is like having shackles tied round your wrists, but, being in a relationship can... limit, or restrict, you in various ways. Being single comes with the ability to grab opportunities that may otherwise have involved serious consideration and compromise. You want to go and work abroad for 6 months? Great. You don't have to sit down with your other half and have that big conversation about your relationship, the risks, the heartache. Phew. Another example, going out. When you're single, you can go out with whoever you like, whenever you like (for the most part) and you don't have to incur the wrath of a potentially jealous boyfriend or girlfriend. You can be spontaneous and you can do what you want. Pure bliss!

Number Two on the list is Personal Space.
As someone who likes to spend time alone without talking to anyone but myself (yes, I do talk to myself) being single is perfect. Sometimes you just need your own space, to get to know who you really are. Being in a relationship often involves being around that person constantly. Spending lots of time with that person and even when you're not together, talking to that person on the phone, via text, email, Facebook, whatever social media you have. I don't do to well with being around the same person for too long, I get easily annoyed by people when I spend over a certain amount of time with them. Which is why I tend to have a lot of friends and not many close friends. So when I'm in a relationship, or when I get close to being in a relationship, I feel really claustrophobic. I don't know why, I get this feeling that I just want to switch my phone off and be by myself for a few days until it passes. And... most people don't tend to understand that about me, so it tends to piss people off. Having personal space ties in well with the freedom of being single. Sometimes you just need to do what you want and be who you are, without having to think about being a part of a relationship. Go on a date with yourself and figure out how to love yourself before someone else falls in love with you.

Number Three is the lack of arguments.
Being single involves fewer arguments. You don't tend to spend enough time with people to get pissed off with them as much as when you're in a relationship. Simple as that. When two people decide to spend their life with one another or at least be in a committed relationship, it is the beginning of combining two people into one unit. And that isn't always easy, so just be glad when you're single that you don't have to deal with the less than rosy side of being in a relationship.

That's about it. Being in a relationship is a wonderful thing, but it doesn't have to define who you are and it won't solve all of your problems. So, try and be happy being single, make the most of it and when you feel good about yourself and ready to be in a relationship, go for it and you'll experiences all those different joys that don't come with being single. And, when I'm in that frame of mind, I'll write another blog post on the delights of being in a relationship.



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